Congratulations, you have made it to your 3rd trimester. Your little one is packing on some weight and you feel her kicks and stretches even more powerfully now. You are super excited to meet her BUT have patience because there is a lot of developing she still needs to do before she can safely come earth side. Soon she will be in your arms.
As your delivery date approaches, the reality that labor is coming becomes more real. You HAVE to give birth to this baby.
At this point in your pregnancy, you should be thinking about or working on your birth plan (lets people specifically know what you DO and DO not want during labor, delivery and the immediate postpartum period). Some people want their goals written out, others just talk to their support people and make sure everyone is on the same page. Do whatever makes you feel the most comfortable.
Labor questions to ask your provider:
WHO will be delivering my baby? Again, is the OB or Midwife in a solo practice or in a group with other professionals? If a solo practice, ask who their back up/on call professional is. If a group practice, do I get to meet or schedule visits with the other doctors? What is your on call day?
Will you be at the hospital the entire time or do you come and go based on how I am progressing in labor?
When can we discuss my birth plan?
Are you ok with me NOT delivering on my back?
What is your position on inductions? Why would you induce me?
Vacuum and forceps usage?
Do I have to have an IV upon arrival? Oxytocin?
What monitoring do you recommend when I go into labor? External or internal?
Will you delay cord clamping?
Should I keep a copy of my prenatal records with me?
Do you perform cervical checks? If so, how often?
When labor begins, at what point should I call you?
Do you support vaginal breech births?
What is your c-section rate? Episiotomy rate? In what situations would you perform one?
How long will you let me go after my due date?
Understanding all your options and getting all your questions answered can help alleviate your fears, put you at ease to feel safe, informed and supported during your pregnancy and your labor and delivery.
Give me a call today to learn how I can help you feel the same way once your baby is in your arms and you are in the comfort of your home.
You have chosen your provider and the news that you are expecting is finally sinking in. Maybe you get an early sonogram picture and your heart explodes at the life growing inside you. The wheels in your mind are spinning as prenatal questions keep popping up. You devour pregnancy books and ask friends but you won’t have peace of mind until you chat with your provider.
As an RN, a former certified childbirth educator and co-author of Starting out Right: Positive Strategies to Guide Adolescents through Healthy Pregnancy and Childbirth, I have heard almost every possible question that people have during their pregnancy. A good amount I can answer, others I will tell you I need to get back to you and some I will tell you to ask your OB or Midwife. Read more
Whom do you tell first? How do you share the news? When do you tell?
Wait a couple weeks or shout it from the rooftops? Sorry, there is no right answer.
Once the initial shock or excitement has worn off and the reality has set in, how do you decide who to go to for your prenatal care? When do you start getting prenatal care? Do you see an OB/GYN? Or a Midwife? Read more
How to start talking about parenting with your partner before the baby arrives
With all the excitement that surrounds your pregnancy; doctors’ appointments, picking out names, creating a registry, setting up the nursery, taking childbirth classes or reading books it is no wonder that parents forget to talk about HOW their lives will be affected after their baby arrives. Parenting starts before the baby arrives.
In Part Two of this blog, I will discuss some of the topics that solicit advice and help you let the advice giver know that you value their thoughts and want to work together and educate each other for the safest outcomes. You may want to take a more gentle approach with someone who seems truly well-meaning, but a more firm approach with someone who seems to be coming from a place of criticism.
As a parent-to-be or new parent, hearing all the advice can make you feel overwhelmed, confused and often times stressed out. How do you know what to believe or what advice you should follow? Research is ongoing and constantly changing, so it is hard to stay on top of everything. Times have changed and so have many guidelines/suggestions. Some well intention advice comes from something that worked real well 20 years ago or even 50+ years ago but is no longer recommended today. Google is at your fingertips and easy to research anything but be careful about the validity of the sites you visit. Let’s work together to increase awareness about the postpartum period and how to best support your loved ones. Read more
As soon as you announce that your family is growing, be prepared for advice to start rolling in! From family members to random strangers, everyone has something to say! Some pieces of advice are helpful; some are annoying and others just down right odd.
I wish I could tell you WHY everyone feels the need to dish out advice, maybe it is human nature: people want to share their own experiences with you, they want to prevent you from making the same mistakes or go through what they went through. I think empathy plays a huge role, people feel compelled to help or solve a perceived issue for someone who is in need, especially if they have been in your position.
Hearing all the advice can make parents-to-be and new parents feel incredibly overwhelmed, confused and often times stressed out. So how do you know what to believe or what advice you should follow? Read more
Halloween might be over but Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years are right around the corner and did you know that 75% of Americans annual weight gain takes place during the holiday season? There are over 29 million adults or 1 out of 11 people living in the US that have diabetes and 1 out of 4 of those don’t know they have it! 1 out of 3 people will develop diabetes in their lifetime. Those are staggering statistics. Read more